Tuesday, 20 April 2010

Emotional News......

You know there are times when life is really challenging and in the space of 24hrs everything changes. Well that just happened to me.

I found out yesterday that a friend who is very dear to me. A friend who was my rock when 'Little Miss H' was born and diagnosed with Down Syndrome. A friend whom I have slowly drifted apart from over the last few years.....Why does that happen? Why do we let life get in the way of friendship? Is now a friend who is very much in need. I have just found out that my friend is an alcoholic.

I have spent the morning at her mum's getting the full lowdown on the situation. It's bad. I called her, we haven't spoken for at least 6 mths. She didn't answer. I left a voicemail just letting her know that I know, that I'm there for her. Thank God she rang me back. We're meeting tomorrow and I hope I can help her work through this before it's too late. And yes, it really is that desperately bad.

I wanted to share that snippet of news and my heartfelt apologies if it has clouded your day, but you know I just needed to put it out there. To share it. I sense I have an incredibly difficult journey to undertake and though Mr. G knows the situation I feel he is worried about the impact it will all have on our life. The poor guy already deals with the stresses of my job, I am not very good at hiding my feelings so some days by the time I get home from work I am a mess. Unfortunately in my line of work distress and ultimately death are never far away, though it doesn't get any easier no matter how many times you experience it.

If my postings become more sporadic please bear with me, life will be just taking its toll. I have a feeling though that I may just turn into a late night blogger trying to squeeze it all in, if anyone knows where to get extra hours let me know!! If you've read this far thanks for being my cyberspace buddy and I promise not to post another depressing story. Ever. (Well maybe not ever but certainly not about this for a very long time!) Thank-you.


  1. Thoughts and prayers are with you all. How inspiring that you are able to be there for her as well. {{hugs}}

  2. I know what you mean about just needing to put it out there. I put a heartfelt post on the other day, then I got scared and I edited it out. Strong emotions can be a bit confronting. Good luck with your friend. Kim

  3. By the sounds of it, your friend is in need of a lot of help at the moment and she will be so glad of all your support in her darkest hours. In turn, I am sure that you will appreciate the support of your other half. Slowly but surely. Acts of friendship and kindness in ones darkest days are never, ever forgotten. Take care xxx

  4. Sometimes it just really helps to get something off your chest by telling someone doesn't it?.
    I have an Aunt who has been an alcohlic for years, it is very sad.
    I hope your friend will be ok.
    Look after yourself too..x

  5. Keep strong!
    Vivienne x

  6. What a great friend you are, she is lucky to have such a special, caring person in her life. I hope tomoorow goes as well as it can do for you both. Take care x

  7. hi justine sounds like life is going to be even busier than usual, but it sounds like with you by her side your friend has someone strong to lean on during this difficult journey back to good health, definitely don't forget Mr G during this busy time, keep him up to date and make the time you spend together special so that he doesn't feel that your kindness to others is taking over...
    sorry can't help with the extra hours but if you do find any can you point me in their direction
    take care tracy

  8. Sorry to hear about your friend. Hope things get better. Your post wasn't depressing by the way - it was just an honest account of what is happening in your life. I think the best blogs share the good and the bad things. Thats real life. Love your blog so hope you find a few minutes here and there to post. I know how difficult it is though! x

  9. I'm sorry for your friend and if you need to 'let off steam' and write depressing posts to help you get through it, that's fine to do. x

  10. Oh, what terrible news. I have no experience of alcoholism but I'm sure it will be hard for you and your friend and for those around you both. I do hope you can help her. As you say, replying to your call and meeting up with you must be a positive step.
    Your post is just talking about what's what - and I'd much rather hear about what's going on, if it helps to share it, than you pretending all is rosy when actually life is taking a hard turn.
    Good luck with it all. Juliex


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